Inspiration: 6 Rules of Success by Arnold Schwarzenegger

So you can’t always win, but don’t afraid of making decisions. You can’t be paralyzed by fear of failure or you will never push yourself. You keep pushing because you believe in yourself and in your vision and you know that it is the right thing to do, and success will come.
— Arnold Schwarzenegger

A while back I stumbled upon this famous speech Arnold Schwarzenegger gave to students at the University of Southern California. 

While people might question some of the controversial decisions Arnold's made over the years, there is no denying what extraordinary success he's had.

What I think I admire most about the guy is his ability to go after what he wants in life with reckless abandon.

Arnold’s 6 Rules to Success:

1. Trust yourself

Many young people are getting so much advice from their parents and from their teachers and from everyone. But what is most important is that you have to dig deep down, dig deep down and ask yourselves, who do you want to be? Not what, but who. Figure out for yourselves what makes you happy, no matter how crazy it may sound to other people.

2. Break the Rules

Break the rules, not the law, but break the rules. It is impossible to be a maverick or a true original if you’re too well behaved and don’t want to break the rules. You have to think outside the box. That’s what I believe. After all, what is the point of being on this earth if all you want to do is be liked by everyone and avoid trouble?

3. Don’t Be Afraid to Fail

Anything I’ve ever attempted, I was always willing to fail. So you can’t always win, but don’t afraid of making decisions. You can’t be paralyzed by fear of failure or you will never push yourself. You keep pushing because you believe in yourself and in your vision and you know that it is the right thing to do, and success will come. So don’t be afraid to fail.

4. Don’t Listen to the Naysayers

How many times have you heard that you can’t do this and you can’t do that and it’s never been done before? I love it when someone says that no one has ever done this before, because then when I do it that means that I’m the first one that has done it. So pay no attention to the people that say it can’t be done. I never listen to, “You can’t.” (Applause) I always listen to myself and say, “Yes, you can.”

5. Work Your Butt Off

You never want to fail because you didn’t work hard enough. Mohammed Ali, one of my great heroes, had a great line in the ’70s when he was asked, “How many sit-ups do you do?” He said, “I don’t count my sit-ups. I only start counting when it starts hurting. When I feel pain, that’s when I start counting, because that’s when it really counts.” That’s what makes you a champion. No pain, no gain.
But when you’re out there partying, horsing around, someone out there at the same time is working hard. Someone is getting smarter and someone is winning. Just remember that. Now, if you want to coast through life, don’t pay attention to any of those rules. But if you want to win, there is absolutely no way around hard, hard work. Just remember, you can’t climb the ladder of success with your hands in your pockets.

6. Give Back

Whatever path that you take in your lives, you must always find time to give something back, something back to your community, give something back to your state or to your country.

Remember these 6 rules. Trust yourself, break some rules, don’t be afraid to fail, ingore the naysayers, work like hell, and give something back.

 

 

 

 

You've Changed

Destiny is not a matter of chance, it’s a matter of choice.
— lifehack.org

Change is the only thing that’s constant in life, yet change is hard because we are creatures of habit. The unknown is scary so often we choose not to change unless things are unbearable.

Years ago, I was struggling with an eating disorder. I was still in “functioning mode”, meaning I was still showing up to work and social gatherings.

Don’t get me wrong - I was in hell. But I was also very comforted by the feeling of control I had and, since I was in “functioning mode,” days, weeks and years went by with no change. No change would come until things got really bad. My mental fog reached an all time high, my energy diminished, and some tests came back to tell me my liver and kidneys weren’t functioning properly. This scare forced me into a rehab centre. The rehab experience created a huge change in my life, and my recovery began there. I guess I needed that wake up call, as hard as it was, and I’m lucky I got it.

A big part of our journey in this life involves change and growth. The struggle makes us stronger. Some changes are unfortunately going to have to come with a big loud change siren, like the one I had, and save you from whatever hole you’ve slipped down into. Other times, and if you’re lucky, you’re creating your own waves of change, sort of reading the signals and doing the shifting before the giant rehab flag is required. Second option is the one I recommend.

These days I’d say I’m open to change, maybe even excited by the idea. I still tend to err on the side of caution. I weigh my odds. I ask myself if I’m where I want to be. I think about the direction I see for my life and the way I want to exist in the world and create a change where and when it’s needed. I reach out for support and a fresh perspective when I need it; just to be sure I don’t quit my job when I’m overtired.

Whatever happens, don’t let fear of change stop you from going after your dreams. I know I don’t want to look back on life and wish I had the guts to do those things I never did.